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Reflection of Mentor

For my Leadership Advancement Scholarship Program we are given a mentor as a freshmen, as the year passes we get to become a mentor and the process continues. Before I became a mentor I remember being anxious and excited. I was very happy to be able to inspire and help my mentee transition into college. However, I was scared. I was scared that I was not ready and that I would mess up. I took a lot of time into thinking what kind of mentor I wanted to be and what I could do as mentor. What I have learned was there are things you can not plan for and that as much as you try to be perfect no can be and that is okay. I put so much pressure on being the perfect mentor, but it is not about being perfect. I found that being vulnerable and creating a relationship is so powerful, you do not have to be perfect. Caring and being open to a relationship is enough. This year as a mentor I learned a lot about myself through mentoring my mentee as well as letting him teach me a few things as a leader.

This experience was so beneficial for both my Kyle, my mentee, and I. I was able to help him through hard times be the listening ear, giving advice, and just having long talks about life. We gained a great friendship out of the mentoring program and it taught me a lot about friendship. Kyle’s compassion and selflessness inspires me everyday to surround myself with people like that and to also strive to be a better person each day. I learned that as much as I helped him as a mentor, he taught me many things as well. I found that mentoring is much more than that it is building a friendship and being there for them when they need you. Through our friendship I learned that with open and honest communication you can build a better relationship and grow, by acknowledging what you can do better. I learned what he wanted out of a mentor and what I can improve on to better fit his needs in a mentor. I am so happy for this experience because I can watch my mentee grow and become a better leader and soon a mentor for someone else and I can see myself grow and become a better leader too because I now know what it takes to be a great mentor. And my greatest goal is that I have impacted Kyle in positive way that will inspire him to have a similar relationship with his mentee: goofy, fun, supportive, open, and honest.

This opportunity taught me the power of being presence and it encourages me to be present in my g-mentees life at CMU, that many do not have. I want to continue to help Kyle grow, as well as learn from him because he is truly an incredible person. I will take what I learned and apply it in other aspects of my life through building other friendships, working with others in organizations, and becoming a better person. And here’s to becoming a G-mentor! Yahh!

 

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Mentor Reflection

Freshmen year is coming to an end, which means mentee preparation! Through my Leadership Advancement scholarship it means I will be a mentor my sophomore year, to a next years LAS freshmen. In preparation in transforming from a mentee to a mentor we had a session in our leadership class discussing with fellow classmates ideas of how to be a great mentor. I have been so excited for this moment and had taken a lot of thought into what kind of mentor I want to be. Before our mentor workshop in class my ideas about being a mentor were faint, but after I was able to be more confident and reassure myself about how to be a successful mentor. Also, from the workshop I was able to gain a broader perspective from other classmates ideas. The new ideas allows be to have a greater grasp of how to go about certain situations, also with being aware of certain situations I didn’t think about.

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I am so excited about being a mentor because it is an honorable position to have knowing that you are given this opportunity to help them in adjusting to college. Also, no one else can be their mentor, others can be a mentor figure, but you are assigned to a specific person. I am excited to spread my love for CMU and help them try new things, because this is exciting time in our lives. I believe in experiencing as many things as possible in order for them to learn what they like/dislike and broaden their horizons by learning about new things. Not only am I excited to be a mentor, but a friend, too. During the hard times whatever it may be I want my mentee to know that I am there for them and it is okay to not be okay. I want them to know they are not alone.  I am passionate about the things I do and the clubs I am apart of and I want my mentee to experience them and challenge themselves, but also find their own passion at campus.

I am preparing myself to be a mentor by letting go of my mentor in the sense of being less dependable of them. I have to be more independent and self-sufficient in order to be a dependable mentor for my future mentee.  Also, I am brainstorming different ways my mentor made me feel important and an example was sending texts to check in on how I was doing or just sending positive affirmation of saying they were proud of me. Another idea I have is to set a certain time a way to hangout with my mentee, so we can bond and have no distractions. College can be busy and I want to make sure we can have that quality time together. Another thing I loved that my mentor did was she met up with me before school started and that allowed me to ask questions and ease the pre-college nerves. Meeting with her was so helpful and allowed me to go to school confident. I want to provide the same opportunity for my mentee, because I want them to have the confidence and the re-assurance they need. Ultimately, I am going to be a mentor that can adapt to what they need and go out of my way to meet those needs. As, well as be open with them in knowing what they expect from me.

With most new experiences you can only plan so much. I know I will have to learn along the way, but I am not nervous because we will have each other. This kind of thing you can’t completely plan for, except to make sure that you are leading by example and doing things that would exemplify a good role model. Lastly, I super excited to have this bond with another LAS scholar. I hope that my mentee will feel confident and have an easy transition to college through my help. Most importantly, I am excited to have them impact my life. Only the best leaders get into this program and I can not even imagine the incredible talents they will be able to teach teach/inspire me. I hope through this process we will both be able to grow as leaders and be there for each other.

OVERALL, I AM SUPER EXCITED!!!

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Where does Leadership come from? Y or N

As a blog post requirement, we were given the prompt of answering the question, “Where does leadership come from a yes or no?” I encourage you to ask yourself that and then evaluate your life and see if you are a no or yes leader.

I believe leadership comes from no. Anyone can say yes, saying no takes courage. And that is true leadership.

There are 3 ways Leadership can come from no.

  1. A great leader knows when to say no.
  2. A great leader doesn’t back down when they are told no, they are built up.
  3. A great leader will say no to the crowd.

 

Every leader can say yes. It is easy to say yes, but a great leader can say no.

It starts with no. Being able to say no and being strong enough to know what you can handle.

Most amateur leaders will spread themselves to thin and say yes to everything thinking that is what a leader has to do.

When you learn to say know is that point you truly become a leader. When we have enough courage to say no we are then able to concentrate on things that are most important to us.

When we are spread thin we are doing less work on a lot of things, but when we cut down on what we do we are able to put in our heart and full effort into what we choose is the most important to keep in our lives.

Another key thing a leader learns when there are able to say no is the ability to confront others and how to deal with disappointing people because in the end we cannot please everyone.

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Another way no plays into leaders is by standing up and persevering when we are told no.

The best leaders take it as a challenge to keep going.

As a leader I grew the most when I was told no. I had to innovate, find different ways, and work harder. If you truly want something in life no one saying you can’t do something should matter. The only thing in the way of getting to a dream is yourself.

I also grew my character by staying determined, confident, and self assured.

Many famous people were told they could not do something, but they were leaders and leaders do not let no stop them. For example, Michael Jordan was cut from his high school team, but not he is a famous basketball player.

There is strength and beauty in being able to be denied, but find the will to continue on and prove others wrong.

 

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Lastly, a leader will say no to the crowd when they need to.

So many people stay in their comfort zone and are afraid of upsetting others and standing alone.

Sometimes the crowd is not right. Sometimes something is not right, but no one has the courage to say something.

Leadership is being able to say no when no one else is and stop something that is not good from being done. That is true leadership.

It starts with recognizing the problem and knowing that true leaders say no.

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 After answering the prompt, I want to be more of a no leader.

Sometimes I take on too much to handle and in the future I want to be more comfortable with saying no and giving myself more time for things.

Also, I mentioned not letting no stop you as a leader. That idea is really important to me because I have experienced others telling me I can not do something.  I never let that stop me and I hope to continue being bold and passionate about things, even when I am told no.

Lastly, I hope to gain more courage and confidence in being able to say no when I see something wrong. I believe we have a human instinct to stay clear of convict, but I don’t want to play into that. I want to be that person that makes a difference even if I am standing alone.