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Reflection of Mentor

For my Leadership Advancement Scholarship Program we are given a mentor as a freshmen, as the year passes we get to become a mentor and the process continues. Before I became a mentor I remember being anxious and excited. I was very happy to be able to inspire and help my mentee transition into college. However, I was scared. I was scared that I was not ready and that I would mess up. I took a lot of time into thinking what kind of mentor I wanted to be and what I could do as mentor. What I have learned was there are things you can not plan for and that as much as you try to be perfect no can be and that is okay. I put so much pressure on being the perfect mentor, but it is not about being perfect. I found that being vulnerable and creating a relationship is so powerful, you do not have to be perfect. Caring and being open to a relationship is enough. This year as a mentor I learned a lot about myself through mentoring my mentee as well as letting him teach me a few things as a leader.

This experience was so beneficial for both my Kyle, my mentee, and I. I was able to help him through hard times be the listening ear, giving advice, and just having long talks about life. We gained a great friendship out of the mentoring program and it taught me a lot about friendship. Kyle’s compassion and selflessness inspires me everyday to surround myself with people like that and to also strive to be a better person each day. I learned that as much as I helped him as a mentor, he taught me many things as well. I found that mentoring is much more than that it is building a friendship and being there for them when they need you. Through our friendship I learned that with open and honest communication you can build a better relationship and grow, by acknowledging what you can do better. I learned what he wanted out of a mentor and what I can improve on to better fit his needs in a mentor. I am so happy for this experience because I can watch my mentee grow and become a better leader and soon a mentor for someone else and I can see myself grow and become a better leader too because I now know what it takes to be a great mentor. And my greatest goal is that I have impacted Kyle in positive way that will inspire him to have a similar relationship with his mentee: goofy, fun, supportive, open, and honest.

This opportunity taught me the power of being presence and it encourages me to be present in my g-mentees life at CMU, that many do not have. I want to continue to help Kyle grow, as well as learn from him because he is truly an incredible person. I will take what I learned and apply it in other aspects of my life through building other friendships, working with others in organizations, and becoming a better person. And here’s to becoming a G-mentor! Yahh!

 

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LEAD Team Reflection

As an LAS Scholar a requirement is to be a part of a Lead Team each year. Last year I blogged about my experience on the Grad Ball Lead Team and this year I got the same opportunity to be on that Lead Team, but as the co-chair coordinator of it. As a refresher, Grad Ball is an annual ceremony to recognize the graduating Leadership Advancement and it is required to attend for all scholars. The Lead team is a group of leadership scholars of all classes, that work together to plan the event including: registration, venue, decorations, invitations, and much more.

This opportunity offered me to explore leading a team of leaders, as well as give me more experience in my major of event planning. I was able to enhance my event planning skills by being able to work with a budget and manage a team. I learned a lot about myself as a leader and where I need improve through this opportunity. I found that my strengths are creativity and being proactive. The flexibility to make this event unique, as well as make a theme allowed me to be creative. Also, I found that being proactive and working on things before they necessarily needed to be done was very beneficial in the event planning process. It made the month of be less stressful as well as helped create better organization. Through this process I had a co-chair, Sara Inbody, and I am so happy how well we worked together. It was reassuring to have someone to lean on and have help through this process. We both learned how to manage team and how there is much work to do to become even better managing a team. It was difficult for us to boost morale and encourage people to attend meetings. This made us reevaluate what were doing, as well as more efficient ways to relay information than just having meetings every week. The day of I learned a lot. There was a lot of problem shooting and it tested my leadership. When leading others and having an event it is important to not freak out in times of problems. I made sure I did not let the day of problems affect how I acted. This allowed people not know the problems that were happening and made everyone calm.

For the future this will give me more knowledge and reference when working similar events or managing a team. I have more confidence on managing a team with things I learned through the Grad Ball Lead Team. I will continue to use my strengths and acknowledge my weaknesses and work on strengthening them.  This experience encouraged me to follow my passion of event planning and leadership and to continue to grow to become a better leader and event planner.

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Mentor Reflection

Freshmen year is coming to an end, which means mentee preparation! Through my Leadership Advancement scholarship it means I will be a mentor my sophomore year, to a next years LAS freshmen. In preparation in transforming from a mentee to a mentor we had a session in our leadership class discussing with fellow classmates ideas of how to be a great mentor. I have been so excited for this moment and had taken a lot of thought into what kind of mentor I want to be. Before our mentor workshop in class my ideas about being a mentor were faint, but after I was able to be more confident and reassure myself about how to be a successful mentor. Also, from the workshop I was able to gain a broader perspective from other classmates ideas. The new ideas allows be to have a greater grasp of how to go about certain situations, also with being aware of certain situations I didn’t think about.

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I am so excited about being a mentor because it is an honorable position to have knowing that you are given this opportunity to help them in adjusting to college. Also, no one else can be their mentor, others can be a mentor figure, but you are assigned to a specific person. I am excited to spread my love for CMU and help them try new things, because this is exciting time in our lives. I believe in experiencing as many things as possible in order for them to learn what they like/dislike and broaden their horizons by learning about new things. Not only am I excited to be a mentor, but a friend, too. During the hard times whatever it may be I want my mentee to know that I am there for them and it is okay to not be okay. I want them to know they are not alone.  I am passionate about the things I do and the clubs I am apart of and I want my mentee to experience them and challenge themselves, but also find their own passion at campus.

I am preparing myself to be a mentor by letting go of my mentor in the sense of being less dependable of them. I have to be more independent and self-sufficient in order to be a dependable mentor for my future mentee.  Also, I am brainstorming different ways my mentor made me feel important and an example was sending texts to check in on how I was doing or just sending positive affirmation of saying they were proud of me. Another idea I have is to set a certain time a way to hangout with my mentee, so we can bond and have no distractions. College can be busy and I want to make sure we can have that quality time together. Another thing I loved that my mentor did was she met up with me before school started and that allowed me to ask questions and ease the pre-college nerves. Meeting with her was so helpful and allowed me to go to school confident. I want to provide the same opportunity for my mentee, because I want them to have the confidence and the re-assurance they need. Ultimately, I am going to be a mentor that can adapt to what they need and go out of my way to meet those needs. As, well as be open with them in knowing what they expect from me.

With most new experiences you can only plan so much. I know I will have to learn along the way, but I am not nervous because we will have each other. This kind of thing you can’t completely plan for, except to make sure that you are leading by example and doing things that would exemplify a good role model. Lastly, I super excited to have this bond with another LAS scholar. I hope that my mentee will feel confident and have an easy transition to college through my help. Most importantly, I am excited to have them impact my life. Only the best leaders get into this program and I can not even imagine the incredible talents they will be able to teach teach/inspire me. I hope through this process we will both be able to grow as leaders and be there for each other.

OVERALL, I AM SUPER EXCITED!!!

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Spark Leadership Experience Reflection

Spark Leadership Series is a program training at Central Michigan University. The training is interactive and last roughly 5 hours. This training is meant to help develop your leadership style, network and connect with diverse people, and challenge yourself through leadership activities.

To check out more about Spark Training click this link https://www.cmich.edu/ess/leadership/Pages/alpha.aspx.

This training was more than just doing leadership activities like other training events I have been to, this one allowed me to see what kind of leader I was through a test we were given. It gave me insight and answers to why I do certain things, especially when I lead. My  results showed that my leadership style was spirited. 16251892_10154420433399075_7252067262165220396_o

I learned that as a spirited leader we are high in assertiveness and expressiveness. Other things I learned was that I am a big-picture thinker. I motivate to be creative and create fresh ideas. Another interesting strength as a spirited leader is that we are spontaneous so it keeps a fun atmosphere. I can relate to being a spirited leader because I have a bubbly personality and always am full of life and creativity.

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My lowest score for leadership style was considerate. my plan for the future is to listen more, incorporate, and be more patient. I want to grow in this weakness because I value the leaders that are more considerate. I intend on learning through experience , by engulfing myself in more leadership roles and practicing that leadership style. My specific goals to practice being more of a considerate leader is to make sure I ask others for their opinions, stay present and not distracted, and give time to others and fully listen them. I now this will help me because as a spirited leader I can be overenthusiastic with my own ideas. A great leader will acknowledge their weaknesses and work on them to become a better leader, and I intend to do so.

Another thing I want to work on in the future is the trouble spots I learned about for being a spirited leader. The weaknesses we have are being too persuasive, indecisive, and we can  lose sight of long term goals. I believe growing in other leadership styles will help me be able to just apply all my strengths and be aware of what type of leader I want to be. Now, I am going to explore other leadership styles, including being considerate like I talked about. I believe a great leader needs to have some of each leadership style because they are all important.

Additionally, like other trainings I learned so much from being able to connect with different leaders and gain a wider perspective. Through activities we were able to pool all of our strengths and give different perspectives. I got to grow and learn from those around me and create friendships with people different from myself. For future, I am going to continue immersing myself in different cultures, leadership styles, and ideas of other people because it only helps yourself from gaining a broader perspective.

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Overall, Spark gave me a better insight to who I am and how I can improve on my leadership skills. Also, it helped me get different perspectives and learn different leadership styles by working with people with styles other than mine. I now feel confident in who I am and how to work with people and be more understanding of other leadership styles.

My Voice is My New Favorite Sound

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Through LAS one of our classes was COM 267. As part of our blog criteria we have to reflect about our experience in debate. Through this post I want to share my fears, beliefs, and views of debate after the class.

I was the person who would hide from conflict.

If I had a problem, I would try to ignore it or I would quietly speak up and be shut down by anyone more confident then myself.

I let people walk over me.

I forgave those, when those didn’t even know I was upset.

I had no voice.

I didn’t know how to use my voice.

I didn’t want to hurt people.

But, in the end I just hurt myself…

 

Taking the debate class gave me a reason to use my voice.

It also taught me the importance of my voice.

I was forced to debate topics with others in the class and saw the power it had.

As a democracy, our voices are so important.

If we want something changed or fixed we are given the right to speak up.

We are the voice of change and we keep this country a democracy.

We voice our opinions to protect our rights and change anything unjust.

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If we don’t speak up, there will never be change.

I am so thankful for the people who knew the importance of their voice.

Those people fought for rights that impacted myself, like women rights.

The fight for equality for women is still present, because of the courage of those who see a problem and want a change.

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Speech is power.

I learned how to use my voice to show and persuade others of my perspective.

Debate showed me the difference of debating and arguing.

Through arguing nothing gets accomplished, but debating gives alternative to voice your opinion in a respectful manner.

You should never disagree to hurt someone else, but to speak your opinions and feelings and that is what debate is used for.

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I have gone through life being stepped on and I have finely found my voice.

I was scared of what my voice could do.

I was scared of conflict.

But now I know the importance and the power of my voice.

Not only can my voice help stand up for myself, but help to make change in the world whether it is in politics, discrimination, or on the other abundance of issues we face in this world today.

I will no longer sit back and let my voice go unheard.

I encourage those who feel like they are being a doormat to speak their mind because nothing will change if you don’t use it.

My voice is my new favorite sound and I cannot wait to use it out.

 

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You are what you…

You are what you eat, think!

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For my leadership scholarship program we had to take PSY 100L and then reflect on it through this blog.

Having an amazing psychology teacher in high school fully prepared me in being able to succeed in the college level class.

Psychology is near and dear to my heart most of my life.

It allows me to understand things that usually do not make sense.

It gives a deeper meaning than the face value.

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As a leadership scholar I find psychology very important in leadership.

Psychology can answer questions leaders could have like,

  • How do I motivate my followers?
  • How can I work with different personalities/ people?
  • How can I teach something to someone to remember?

I feel that everybody would benefit from a psychology class because it can help you understand yourself or others.

Psychology can teach parents about childhood development and punishment.

From psychology I learned that you can punish your child, but it only stops the behavior it does not correct it.

That is why I love psychology so much it uncovers meanings behind different aspects in life and gives a better solution or idea to a situation.

Psychology helps me think in a more philosophical way.

The quote above, “Man can alter his life by altering his thinking” is more true then ever.

Being able to see past what is in front of us and what is actually underneath the surface helps to understand things that we cold have misjudged.

Also, being able to use better thinking to understand others, you can also understand yourself.

You can change your life, by rewiring your brain on the thoughts it creates.

I believe that positive thoughts equals a positive life.

You become what you think.

By understanding what makes people, people we are more apt to understand, forgive, and have peace within our life.

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This is a quote I enjoy, especially since it ties in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

In Psychology we learned about this hierarchy of needs and how each lower need must be met before moving to a higher level.

The two highest levels, which people find difficult to reach is self-actualization and self-transcendence.

Self-actualization means to find self-fulfillment and and realize one’s potential. Self-transcendence is connecting to something beyond yourself to help others find their potential.

To me the quote means if you live comfortable with living day by day running through the motions through only psychological and safety needs then you are missing out on so much. You will never reach your full potential and you will deny yourself the happiness you could have.

Overall, I enjoyed the Psychology class and I recommend not only the class, but the whole perspective you get out of it.

You will be able to add depth to your thoughts and reasons to your actions.

As well as understanding how powerful our mind is.

In the future I want to continue learning about psychology because it is so useful in working with people and understanding many things in life. I am going to take what I learned and apply to my everyday life, specifically in leadership roles. I now have more knowledge on how to motivate people and different kind of leadership styles. What I have learned and am going to learn will  prove to be beneficial in working with people and understanding myself.

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I Will Remain…

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In my leadership class my group was assigned a leadership-themed book and it was A Leader’s Legacy.  

As a leader we do things each day that help to create what our legacy will be.

The greatest leaders are those that do for others, not themselves.

The things you do for others will shape the legacy you leave because the things you do for yourself die with you.

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The book taught be that leaders are going to suffer and it is important to be interested in others success.

As a leader you lead by example and teach others by showing them what to do.

Everyday we encounter people, at which they get to see who we are. Your actions and encounters play a role in the legacy you leave.

It is important to stay mindful of what you show others because that is how others will remember you as.

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Not only is it important to teach others, but be open to learn from others.

Everyone in your life has a lesson to give you.

To grow and become the person you need to be you must be open to never stop learning and growing.

Those who leave the strongest legacies are those that don’t sit by, they stand up and make things happen. You show others that you can make a difference!

As a leader, you must trust, encourage and appreciate those around you because it makes a great impact on how they see you. Not only is it the things you do, but the way you act towards others that show your character and the legacy you want to leave.

Leader’s require courage. Courage to be

the person they want to be by standing by their values and beliefs.

An important lesson I learned from the book is that everyone has their own legacy they want to leave and as a leader you have to be mindful of that. Many people in charge tend to infringe on the freedom of others to express their ideas or work independently.

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A part of our project was to do a video portion. We choose to tape people asking them what they want their legacy to be and what they are doing now to achieve that.

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We found it important to think to ask ourselves those questions.

We get caught up in life and sometimes forget what we are truly trying to accomplish. We all have an idea of what legacy we want to leave, but are we doing the right things each day to leave that legacy?

I want to make a legacy that will represent who I want to be saw as. Now I am going to work on how I can create my legacy. I am going to be more positive and inspirational to those that I am around. I am going to continue being involved and doing volunteer work because it is giving be the opportunity to build my legacy.

I want to be compassionate.

I want to be self-less.

I want to be up-lifting.

I want to inspire others.

At which, I will remain… by the image I create for myself.

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